Apparently Multitasking is a BAD trait now?

 

Ok am I alone in thinking this is an unrealistic expectation???

 

 

 

Think I definitely need to find time to listen to the whole podcast being mentioned here for context but at first read of this meme and some of the comments over on IG all I got is that after spending 30 years working in an industry where you HAD to multitask or you risked children being injured or lost that I must have been able to adapt to having a big wide ass lens on my flashlight so I can see/do/manage more than one thing at a time … I am constantly used to doing 2-3 or more tasks/jobs simultaneously and having focus on ALL of them and yet still able to work quickly and yield great accuracy in my results! 

 

I will admit that when I was able to leave large centres and work in a smaller ratio of children that I was able to yield even BETTER results but I was still having to multitask constantly it was just way easier with only 5 littles vs having up to 12! 

 

Also admit on the last factor - YES it can be exhausting to work in settings where it’s required to constantly multitask … but there are SO many jobs where your are constantly expected to multi task simultaneously and where the ability TO do it is seen as valuable to employers - even when I worked in restaurants you had 20-30 orders up in the air at any given time all in various stages of completion and having to bounce between doing that and answering incoming phone orders or people coming to the cash to check out. You needed to be able to have great recall to snap back to where you were in which orders completion and so forth. Can you imagine how SLOW restaurants would be if they only worked on one order start to finish in the back kitchen. 

Or I think of people like Toad who are neurodivergent with ADHD or others on the autism spectrum who find having to focus on just one task very challenging to stick with and actually produce better results if they are, for example, playing with a toy in their hands, while focusing on being required to read and also needing some auditory stimuli like music on in background.

 

What are your thoughts on multi-tasking? Something we need to eliminate or a basic skill requirement to be honed to keep up in this era?  As always you are welcome to come join the conversation in our private Totallyawake4-life & Nailin' It Together community!

 

Margaret

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Do you have a Saturday ritual??

Sharing is caring - drop us your must haves to help you recharge in the comments.

 

 

 

We spent some time out in the backyard cleaning up the deck to enjoy sitting out by the fire and discussing plans to have an overgrown pine tree removed, got creative digitally making fun content, Love my Aloette Muddy Up detoxification mask, added some DoTERRA lavender to my Epsom salts to help with the relaxing, currently working my way the through an Audible book Cognitive Behaviour therapy in 7 weeks by Seth Gillian PhD., Aloette has an amazing Hand polish and cream that helps turn back time on the hands & GelMoment cuticle oils are a must for healthy nails, we are currently working our way through the Mandilorian for Saturday night family movie night, I love using wool dryer balls with a couple drops of doTERRA Serenity make for amazing fresh linens and Sundays are the perfect day to plan for a sleep in - hopefully my brain cooperates!

 

Be well and if you are looking for more clean living, eating and self care tips and tricks come join our Totallyawake4-life & Nailin' It Together community!

 

Margaret

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Self Regulation

So often we hold children to a higher standard of self regulation than many of us are capable of ourselves! 

There are times when we, as adults, become over tired and over stressed and suddenly hit our threshold of all we can take with demands on us and we act out towards a spouse or family member with unkind words or we may throw a little toddler tantrum ourselves! I know it happens cause I have seen it out and about in stores and service based businesses ;) 

Peopling is HARD and what children need in those moments what ANYONE needs where they cannot regulate themselves is for us to HELP them through co-regulation showing empathy and offering support vs tossing more stress into their spiral. 

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Mental health in the early years MATTERS! 

Margaret 

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Goal Digging!

Soaking up all the empowerment I can get my hands on right now to help me kick start 2022 like a rock star 💫 

Today  I took advantage of  The Goal Digger Girl live workshop on creating your roadmap! So packed full of goodies had to come back for the replay cause my shorthand couldn’t keep up live 💕 so much love and respect for those who love to share content with those new to a journey to help them grow and thrive! 

Do you have goals your looking to rock? 

Margaret 

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#gratitude

I AM coachable!

Crushing my 2022 goal to spend more time investing in my self and skills needed to rock my social selling journey! 

Digging in with all the amazing team training and supports that are in place, joined the teams monthly book club which is reading Romi Neustadt book Get Over Your Damn Self! Loved chapter 1 and moving on to Chapter 2.

Seriously did not know what I was missing with Audible books - now I can ‘invest in myself’ while I am doing the dishes, in the shower, hiking or driving! So those mundane chore times can now serve dual purposes! Like honestly I got stuck at a train today and I was like “cool I can focus on listening to my Audible”  

So grateful to @staceyregan.__  @laurie_drinkwater both are amazing mentors in the GelMoment family! 

Margaret 

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Do You have a Bad Habit to kick?

 

Happy Friday! YAY!!!!!

 

It is getting to be that time of year where we reflect on the year we are releasing and dream and plan for the new one we are about to embark on! 

 

 

Do you have a habit you want to kick in the New Year? Or a goal for something you want to add to your life?

 

Making a change in habits can be hard as our brain becomes wired in one habitual way and we basically have to work hard to rewire it into a new set of pathways and keep AT it until it is really ingrained otherwise the brain can be tricky and try to detour you back to an old path!

My 3 tips for helping kick a habit:

 

Write it down! 

 

Making a public declaration of your goals helps to turn it from a wish into an action plan cause now it is out there in writing for you and others to see. You do not have to do it online you can write it down and pop it on the fridge or your desk at work!

 

Make sure your goal is SMART ... 

 

Is it specific?

 

If your goal is too broad it is easy to get lost in the focus or direction you are going and feel defeated. So for example setting a goal for World Peace is WAY to broad - break that baby down into the goals you need to achieve with that as your end game! 

 

Is it measurable?

 

 How you are you going to know you have reached your goal? So for example I can say I want to loose weight  - but that goal is not really a clearly measurable goal as in I could loose a pound and whoop technically someone could say I met my goal - but if my goal is to loose 100 pounds well I have a journey ahead of me! I might need to break that down into even more measurable goals in order to succeed at it! I want to reach a goal weight of 150 pound - that is more specific.

 

Is it attainable/achievable?

 

So again is your goal about setting you up for success? So going with the weight loss cause that tends to be a popular goal this time of year. If my goal is to reach a goal weight of 150 pounds but than I add in the idea that by a wedding that's 4 weeks away - well that might not be attainable or achievable unless you are starting at 158 pounds. Conventional advice on healthy sustained weight loss is to aim for a 2 pounds per week .... so to ensure your goal is attainable you need to figure out how many pounds you need to loose to get to your ideal weight and than if losing 2 pounds per week to help you determine what time line is needed to achieve that?

 

Is it relevant?

 

This is a tricky one for some - you need to dig deep and ensure that this goal is REALLY something that you are doing for YOU and that you are motivated by a need/want that is within you! An example for my own life - I am a former smoker! Started when I was 10 smoking the butts of my and my friends parents cigarettes in the gravel pit fort we had made and by the time I was 14 I was smoking a pack a day by the time I was in my 20's that was a pack and half or more! I tried to quit NUMEROUS times over the years because loved ones complained about it, because doctors came out and said it was dangerous, because society was starting to shame smokers and restrict where you could smoke .... all reasons that were NOT relevant to ME in any meaningful way. I finally quit when I herniated my disc and found myself immobile for months and the  smoking on top of that started collecting in my lungs and I was waking up coughing up nasty crap ... now that was a RELEVANT reason to me because first GROSS but secondly have you ever coughed when you have a herniated disc or even if you have not herniated that if you've had an abdominal surgery - it is PAINFUL. I quit cold turkey because I was truly motivated to not have to experience that pain because of a nasty habit! 

 

 And lastly is it time based?

As mentioned early with the weight loss being attainable - having a realistic time line is vital when setting a goal! If your time line is unrealistic you are setting yourself up to fail from the start!

Set up a Support system! 

 

Ask someone to be your accountability partner to follow up with you daily or weekly or however often you agree to check in with how your doing and cheer you on or help to put you back on track with your goal also helps with successfully kicking a habit! 

 

Choose that partner wisely - you want to choose someone who actually been through what you are going through so they have understanding and empathy as well as the knowledge of what is going on. Someone who will actually HOLD you accountable to your goals, who can give you both positive feedback AND constructive criticism where you need it! Someone you trust to be both inspiring when you need it and that hard knuckle coach when you need that too!

 

Keep the eye on the prize ... part of setting a goal and following through is to have a very good 'visual picture' of where you were and where you want to go and WHY! As you set your goal you want to create a daily mantra of what you are going to GAIN by changing this habit.

 

Word your mantra as if you have ACHIEVED your goal! Something like "I have reached my ideal weight, I am able to run and play with my grand-daughter without pain. I am strong and confident and comfortable in my skin again! I am living my happiest and healthiest life surrounded by those I love.' 

 

I know it sounds simple but in my experience those are the top 3 things to have success! It is basically setting SMART goals, accountability and gratitude for what you have now and will have when you get where you want to be!

 

You've got this and if you need an accountability partner - message me I love to help others rock their goals or come on over and join us on Facebook either in my Totallyawake4-life Community or my Totallyawake4-life & Nailin' It community or both they each off a bit different content focus on living a healthy happy life! 

 

Margaret

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